5 signs of unconditional love that let you know it’s really real | David Schröder

Before a person can give or express their “unconditional love”, it is important to understand the different meanings behind each of these two words. What is unconditional love? Unconditional means to be without condition or limitation, complete and absolute, and given freely and without reservation

The word “love“, however, means something different to everyone. Love creates a variety of different feelings, emotional states and attitudes. Love can refer to affection, a strong attraction or passion, and can also mean a feeling of personal attachment to someone or something.

For some, love is a virtue that is expressed in kindness, compassion and affection. For others, it is a selfless, loyal, and benevolent concern for the good of others. And it can be a physical, emotional or romantic feeling expressed towards a person or an object.

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Unconditional love is therefore affection and passion for the other without condition or limitation. And no matter how you define it, unconditional love is fundamental to maintaining a lasting relationship. But how do you notice the signs that he loves you unconditionally?

5 signs of unconditional love that let you know it’s really real

1. Love without limits

Pure love expresses itself as freedom. Loving without conditions or limits is the ultimate love. It is the freedom for two people to be who they are, without one needing to control the other to meet their own needs. Unconditional love is genuine and enduring and allows each person to have their space – to experience, create and grow – individually and together.

The need to be right and to control the relationship creates a destructive environment for any relationship. If love is expressed with conditions, they are probably motivated by insecurity. An unconditional relationship seeks physical and emotional power with another, not the power finished them.

2. Fluid exchange of giving and receiving

Love is more than a feeling or an emotion, it is a conscious action and a choice to contribute to the well-being of others. It is the willingness to give love, affection and admiration with openness, acceptance and appreciation.

When you give freely, you receive back. That being said, relationships are a working partnership and as such they require healthy boundaries so no one is taken advantage of or abused.

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For the receiver of unconditional love, it is important to feel worthy and deserving. It is unconditional love for yourself, and when you love yourself unconditionally, you can more easily give and receive love from another.

3. Freedom from judgment

Judgment is the refusal of love, and it is therefore conditional. When you judge another, you don’t accept them as they are. In times of frustration or relationship struggle, ask yourself, “What is the most loving act I can offer this person?”

The response and associated action will move you from judgment and resentment to acceptance and loving action.

4. Expressions of love and affection

Develop the habit and practice of expressing love to yourself and others daily. Be creative, spontaneous, and joyful with the practice of offering loving kindness. Gratitude is a way of walking with love. The simple act of offering gratitude and appreciation to another brings joy and care to them and to yourself.

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5. Establishing Common Ground

The ability to communicate openly and respectfully with one another is an expression of unconditional love. The willingness to seek understanding and work to find win-win solutions in problem-solving situations is also unconditional love.

Take the road to higher relationships with each other. Finding similarities in your differences is a way to be unconditional towards each other.

Unconditional love is not always easy to practice. However, happiness and fulfilling relationships thrive when you can. The more aware you are of your own needs and how you might turn your needs into conditional expectations to be met by someone else, the greater your chances of expressing the good deeds of unconditional love.

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David Schroeder, LMSW, CPC of Grand Rapids, MI., is a licensed social worker, certified life coach, and author of Just Be Love: Messages on the Spiritual and Human Journey.

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