How To Find Unconditional Love in a Divorce-Prone World Kelly Rudolf


What does unconditional love REALLY mean these days?

It means loving someone regardless of the conditions.

In other words, someone who loves a person no matter what they do, say, think, feel, look like, act like or believe.

Love someone even if your needs for connection, certainty, and importance are not met by them.

Unconditional love means that you are not attached to the love you give. You may or may not receive love in return because that is not part of the deal.

If you were to get it back, that would be a condition. You love them without expecting anything in return.

How to get unconditional love?

To get it, you must also be willing and able to give it. It’s a two-way street.

The two-way street is not a condition, it is more based on personal development and attraction.

Most people want unconditional love to make sure that the person they are with won’t leave them because of the things they do or say, but are rarely willing to give the same back.

If this is you, your need for unconditional love already has conditions.

Most people don’t realize that they have to work for it, they just want to receive it.

The reason you have to be willing and able to give it is because then you will attract other people who are able to do the same.

The confidence you develop when you recognize that you are a whole and complete human being (on your own) is the same confidence that is so appealing to other confident people – the only others who will be able to provide you unconditionally. love attached.

When you have this confidence, you can give love without expecting anything in return.

  • You won’t be hurt if your man doesn’t do what you think he should do or say what you think he should say.
  • You won’t need his approval or acceptance for you to feel validated as a worthy human being because you already do.
  • You will feel connected to him even if he doesn’t call on time, invite you on the weekend, or forget your birthday.
  • You may be upset, but your love for him won’t change because of it.

What is unconditional love for?

You may be wondering: “So why would I need him? “

That’s it.

You won’t need him. You will want him and be in a relationship with him out of desire.

Needing a relationship and wanting a relationship are two completely different things.

Most people think they should be in a relationship to be whole or because society is often harsh on singles and alienates them or they feel uncomfortable and alienate themselves.

Some people pride themselves on giving unconditional love and tell people about it.

I would assume that telling people about it is to gain acceptance and approval, in which case the love they say they give is fulfilling a need they have so is not unconditional.

Would these same people love the same if they couldn’t tell anyone?

And if you can not to give unconditional love?

So, let’s see if you are still ready to give love unconditionally. There is no right or wrong answer; just a genuine awareness of where you stand which can ease the pressure of a need to find that elusive emotion or the key to how you can get it.

Let’s say you like someone because they have certain qualities that you like or have status or because they treat you in a certain way.

Ask yourself if you would feel the same for them if they didn’t have or do those things that you love so much; the things that attracted you to them.

Most people who are honest with themselves will say: “No.”

If you said “Yes,” congratulations.

You are much closer to getting the unconditional love of someone else than most people.

But if you said “No,” you are in good company.

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When we decide what we want in our lives and go after it, we have standards, and we also hope to establish and enforce healthy personal boundaries around those standards.

That way we don’t date someone who turns out to be dragging us down and destroying the plan we had for our lives?

Can our standards and our plan change? Absoutely.

However, many people fall into the trap of ending up with someone who lets their health deteriorate or stops caring for them within a few months.

It’s common when a person who wants a relationship gets in shape just to grab a partner and subsequently no longer feels the need to be diligent to stay healthy.

It’s self-centered and deceptive, but a lot of people do it. This is a good example of someone falling in love with someone who is not who they say they are.

I’m sure you’ve been in this situation or know someone who has, right?

Here is an example of unconditional love:

Honoring your body and staying fit is one of your core values.

You are in a relationship with someone who is becoming severely overweight, smokes cigarettes and has no plans to change their habits.

Physical health is just not their top priority like it is yours. You love them as they are, in good physical health or not.

Can you hope they see the light and want to be healthy at some point? Sure, but your love doesn’t depend on whether they do it or not.

Now that you know what unconditional love on your part entails, do you still want it? If so, you will be so turned on by the confidence you will develop as you prepare for that kind of love that most people will never experience.

Kelly Rudolph is a Certified Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Founder of Are you fed up with stress, lack of self-confidence and fear for your future? Kelly can help you. Start to have it Free life strategies now.