In a world where the dominant idea of love is often based on media depictions and fairy tales, it can be easy to forget that love comes in many different forms. For Muslims, the concept of love is guided by Islamic teachings and principles. Although there is no single definitive understanding of love in Islam, the Quran provides some guidance on the matter. Let’s take a look at what Islam has to say about romantic love.
The Quran on Romantic Love:
“And among his signs he created wives for you that you might find peace in them, and he placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed, there are signs there for a thinking people. (Quran 30:21)
This verse not only speaks to the idea of romantic love, but also the importance of finding tranquility in our marital relationships. The Quran advises us to seek relationships based on affection and mercy, as these are the foundations of lasting and fulfilling love.
There is another verse that says,
“And We created you in pairs” [78:8]
This means that Allah (SWT) has created a companion for everyone which includes all living beings. There is someone who was created just for you and Allah (SWT) will send him into your life at the right time. And Allah knows best.
“Love” is a strong emotion of feeling attached, attracted to, or caring for an individual. It is interesting to know that Islam does not invalidate the feeling of love nor does it reject it completely. In fact, there is a hadith from the Prophet (SAWS) that says,
It was reported by Ibn Abbas that the Prophet [SAW] said: “There is nothing like marriage, for two who love each other. ~[Sunan ibn Majah 1847]
That means the best thing for two people who love each other is to make it halal. Islam is not against the feeling of love but haram relationships. Always remember that a real person with pure intentions will not be afraid of a commitment. If you feel attracted to a man or a woman, share this feeling with your elders or with the wali of this man/woman. Try to work it out with them in a respectful way and make it happen.
It appears from the life of the prophet that it is permissible to marry a person of your liking. The Prophet’s (PBUH) first wife Khadijah (RA) expressed her wish to marry the Prophet while being a widow as she liked his character traits.
But what if there are reasons why it doesn’t work? ?
If it doesn’t work, accept that it was because of the will of Allah (SWT). You will be heartbroken and disappointed, but eventually things will get better over time. Allah (SWT) is omniscient, he has knowledge of the invisible. There is a verse in the Quran that says what we love may not be for our good and vice versa.
“But maybe you hate something and it is good for you, and maybe you love something and it is bad for you. And Allah knows while you do not know. -(2 :216)
Just let it go for the sake of Allah (SWT) and have faith. There are many things in this world that can bring us happiness, but true and lasting happiness can only be found by following the guidance of Allah. By seeking relationships based on Islamic principles, we can experience the tranquility and fulfillment that comes from a life lived in love.
The concept of romantic love is important in Islam. Allah created us with the ability to love and be loved and advised us to seek relationships based on affection and mercy.